Suffering from life

No doubt, there is no escape from suffering in life, however the question is the effect of sufferings. Some get spoiled by suffering and some grow out of them. How to avoid spoilage of suffering? One widespread piece of advice that you get from almost everyone is to live, the way you want. Certainly, everybody thinks that, he is living the way he wants. However, the matter of fact is that, everybody is conditioned in their lives. Life do not give you free hand even if you believe in 100% freedom of choice. The limitation of choices especially when it come to life changing decisions is what make life is conditioned and there is no escape out of it. Making it worse is the role of others in your life. People around you are unpredictable. We can't insulate ourselves from their responses. You can avoid, you can forget but there is limitation and it is what we all know very well......

Having said this, what we can do is to realize or having a different look/perspective on life. One thing that we learn through cultural transmission is looking at world as "Black and white" or classifying things as "Bad or Good".

When I hear people say, "life is good or bad", I really get puzzled because it is tallying life and concluding the gains or loses. You will find expressions about life changes frequently.

I think you can tally your performances and works but not your life. Life is felt. You feel it good, sometimes it is acceptable and sometime you don't like it. Feelings that we get from life, depends on what we like and what we don't.

Our likes and dislikes changes over time. You do not enjoy the things that you were enjoying in your childhood. Why? Because your perspectives have changed. Our likes and dislikes changes over time because we learn things what to like and what to dislike and it is the most important in judging life.

Feelings in not like tastes. Sweet always taste sweet and sour always taste sour. We can't lean to tastes sour as sweet and vice verse.... However, feelings could get changed. You may not liked a person but as you learn more about him, you may start  to like him. You may not liking a practice but over time you may realize that you were wrong and so on................

In conclusion, I would say, though life is conditioned, what we can do is be vigilant of our feelings and making sure that we have not learnt wrong way of feelings that could spoil our lives. Certainly, suffering remains sufferings until we feel bad about it and it will turn into experience we do not feel bad any more about it................